No Expectations

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In light of the elections and my own personal life the past few weeks, I’ve been struggling with making sense of it all. But particularly in my personal life, I have a habit of letting my imagination run rampant (that’s what the best of us writers do). But over time, I’ve come to a place that for every situation and every person I meet with, I create possible scenarios that might pan out.

Yes, it’s the common case of overthinking. And, not a healthy one at that.

But in response to our daily worries and over-analyzing, God gives us comfort. Jesus says in Matthew:

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?”
Matthew 6:25-27

Jesus is so right. Can we do anything productive by worrying? Absolutely not! But what can we do in situations like this? Completely ignore it? Ignorance, friends, is not bliss. It is an old necromancer that turns us away from what is true. Instead:

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4:6-7

Pray, brothers and sisters. In times of not knowing, it is the only thing we can do. And, it is a powerful tool. Earlier this month something funny happened in my life. I was bold for a minute in pursuing someone, but then it seemed to me that it totally backfired. For a second, I had built up all these expectations and fantasies of how the relationship would turn out. Slowly, one by one, I started encountering people who would intercept my path towards this imagined goal of mine. Until, finally I was so turned away from my originally imaginations that I jumped to completely the opposite conclusions. In the meantime, I had essays and tests to complete, but my mind was preoccupied with what this one person thought of me and who was getting in my way to him. Only when I was near emotional breakdown did I turn to the Lord for guidance. And, man, should I have done that earlier.

With prayer and reflection, I came to a healthy conclusion filled with peace. My troubles were not at all as extreme as I had envisioned them. I was still on good terms with everyone, and in fact no one had thought anything less of me. It was all in my head and due to the expectations I made up from the beginning.

So, my friends, take peace in the Lord and entrust him with all your worry and anxiety. Before building up grand scenes about how a romantic relationship, a friendship, a job, or opportunity may pan out, consult the Lord. Ask him for His will to be done. And trust me, rivers of peace will wash over you.